KarenC Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > IH8FSA Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > I liked the idea of letting the girl choose her > > own ring after. I have bad taste and I know > girls > > have their own style and likings etc… I mean > if > > my girlfriend was going to pick something for > me > > that i had to wear everyday I would want to > like > > it. > > > > What do you guys think of proposing with a > wedding > > band? ( I know she likes platinum so I would > > simply get a platinum band in her size) > > > > > > what do you guys think? > > > Just drop it into conversation like a woman in > work got engaged and they were admiring this type > of ring etc … see what she says… > she’ll no doubt give her opinion. I fell for that > trick myself :-S Karen, thanks for the insight, but we’ve been together nearly 6 years but I still want some element of surprise !! I dont want to talk about it, I would feel weird. While I was watching the finale of bachelor ( please keep comments to yourself people, its a good show !!!) She fell in love with one of the rings, doing some research I was able to find out that she likes Platinum/White gold and princess cut and I know her size from long time ago when she mentioned it as we were walking by a jewelllery store. Using just those 2 factors, i felt a little bit more confident on choosing a ring on my own but still dont know, you think those 2 are enough? ( I mean i still dont know if she wants a plain band, or more than 1 diamond etc…)
Similar to what bchadwick said, I always felt like my proclivities toward practicality was a good contra-indicator of how much I really liked someone. While I generally consider myself to be a very practical person, I generally have the financial wherewithal to take care of girls that I like. As for how this relates to girls, it’s pretty easy – when I feel like I’m trying to count every dollar I’m spending on someone, it’s usually because I don’t like them all that much. I do what I can to keep them happy because things are sort of fine the way they’re going, but there’s really nothing there that really wants to make me extend my means any further (be it emotionally or physically). On the other hand, any time I’ve really liked someone, money has been much less of a consideration – and in certain instances, I like to give a nice gift (such as a nice dinner at a restaurant that we’ve both been itching to check out, or a coat that she’s been wanting badly for the whole year) because I know that the girl will really appreciate the item, not necessarily because of how much it costs but because she knows that I’m thinking about her. That being said, the girls I generally girl for can hold their own financially, and I’ll know by the second or third date whether a girl is dating me for who I am, or whether she’s dating me for how much money I make. In my best relationships, we never actually had to spend a whole lot of money to have a good time – in fact, we could have fun wherever we went – but every girl that’s seriously committed to you does want to be treated like a princess every now and again, and I think if you really love someone, you wouldn’t mind spoiling them. Oh, so long story short – it’ll be a while before I get engaged (already had one opportunity and passed on it), but when it comes time, I’m sure I’ll just go with whatever makes me and my future fiancee happy. I don’t have a magical formula for the value of the ring either, and don’t expect to have one in the future either.
I have also heard the three month rule. Have you thought about how your going to do it? I have heard that also makes a significant difference.
Anyone have any cool engagement locations they are thinking about? I was in Venice with two girls and they made me promise that I would propose to the lucky lady there, but I think it is a little too touristy for me. btw - I don’t think I will be getting married for a while either.
IH8FSA Ok bit of a hint that she wanted you to propose when she gave you her ring size so I’d say (short of offering her excrement on a platter her answer is no doubt going to be yes) however a few tips… Yes I think you have enough information, you know the cut of the diamond and the platinum setting so you just need to go into a few stores and just say platinum princess cut and see if anything jumps out at you - you’d be surprised, being with a girl for 6 years you’d take in what type of jewelry she wears without thinking so something will look just like “her” and you’ll know - good luck! Also YES it kinda helps to do it properly, if you say the right thing about how she’s the one you have been waiting for, completes you, makes you so happy that you can’t wait to spend the rest of your life trying to make her even close to as happy as she makes you etc…while at somewhere private and romantic then you’re in there!! Sorry can’t be more use but don’t know the girl! 
P.S. don’t ask the friends, they’ll hint it at her or tell her!!
So the question is, Is it better to buy an expensive diamond ring, or is it better to craft a ring with your blood,sweat, tears, time, and devotion but doesn’t cost that much in material costs? For me i’d rather make something and receive something that I know isn’t just purchased with simple $$$. My ex didnt share the same view tho 
philip.platt Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Anyone have any cool engagement locations they are > thinking about? > > I was in Venice with two girls and they made me > promise that I would propose to the lucky lady > there, but I think it is a little too touristy for > me. > > btw - I don’t think I will be getting married for > a while either. Powerscourt waterfall, wicklow… *sigh* - most romantic place I have ever been!
Can some one hand me a tissue…
Not sure where I’d want to propose (since it would probably depend on who it is I end up getting engaged to), but I know that I’d want to have my wedding ceremony at the church at my university
Just don’t put it in the cake/drink…the idea of being original has got to count for something…and the cake thing just freaks me out…
On another note, can someone explain to me why this thread is still here, but the tennis thread is nixed?! Come on man, tennis is every bit as important as getting engaged…just remember that 50% of Western marriages end up in divorce, but for most people, tennis is a lifelong sport! Thankfully I still have the tennis thread saved…hooray for off-line web browsing storage
KarenC Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > philip.platt Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Anyone have any cool engagement locations they > are > > thinking about? > > > > I was in Venice with two girls and they made me > > promise that I would propose to the lucky lady > > there, but I think it is a little too touristy > for > > me. > > > > btw - I don’t think I will be getting married > for > > a while either. > > > Powerscourt waterfall, wicklow… *sigh* - most > romantic place I have ever been! Awesome - thanks Karen. I might do that (I am of Irish descent - would kind of be cool). just looked it up - http://www.gov.ie/en/photos/38/
No problem philip and you’ve got the ritz carlton hotel on the grounds and gordon ramsays probably last remaining restaurant there too so pamper away afterwards…damn why am I single again?!
numi Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > On another note, can someone explain to me why > this thread is still here, but the tennis thread > is nixed?! > > Come on man, tennis is every bit as important as > getting engaged…just remember that 50% of > Western marriages end up in divorce, but for most > people, tennis is a lifelong sport! > > Thankfully I still have the tennis thread > saved…hooray for off-line web browsing storage Is this not in some way about investments?!
KarenC Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > No problem philip and you’ve got the ritz carlton > hotel on the grounds and gordon ramsays probably > last remaining restaurant there too so pamper away > afterwards…damn why am I single again?! Because you aren’t in Texas x-P
KarenC, thank you for the kind comment. It does makes a difference.
bchadwick Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > KarenC, thank you for the kind comment. It does > makes a difference. No worries, it was meant!
Good luck to you man…
" YOU HAD ME AT HELL NO "
IH8FSA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > " YOU HAD ME AT HELL NO " Hahahha yeah - let us know how that goes!