MILF

[Sweep_the_Leg]

@Palantir

I’m pretty sure most guys are attracted to younger women…

So says the guy that thinks Ayra Stark is hot. Sometimes you make me wonder…

[NANA_Hachiko]

@bchad

As to why brag about things, just realize that half the sex stories you hear people bragging about are either invented or highly embellished.

But there’s an undertone to your question which I don’t understand. What’s wrong with MILFs?

I agree with your first statement.

As for the latter, for 1, the MILFs i was referring to are married, and 2, if they are sneaking around having sex in a mini van, should they at least keep quiet about it and have the decency to keep the affairs private?

[bchad]

Ok, I get you. I don’t advocate home-wrecking. I thought the issue was “how can a 40+ year old be attractive enough to be worth bragging about.”

As for sneaking around in a mini-van, sometimes the danger of possibly being caught adds to the excitement of it all. I don’t advocate it as a regular thing, but once or twice can be fun. I’ve never done it - cars are too uncomfortable for my taste - the closest I have ever come is a Central Park adventure.

[Capt_Save_A_Ho]

Maybe the guys who brag about this have no shame.

[guestuser]

@NANA_Hachiko

@bromion

I don’t understand the point of this thread. By definition, a MILF is attractive (hence the ILF). Young men, or men of any age, like to have sex with attractive women. MILFs are easier to have sex with then younger women and are often more aggressive. The question answers itself.

Okay… so you are saying a 19 year old guy can be attracted to a 42 year old mom and/or find her easy…

and therefore it makes good cocktail stories?

No what I was trying to say is that attractive is attractive regardless of age. There’s probably a really hot 50 year old woman somewhere. But the point is, there are plenty of attractive women 35-45 that lots of men would like to sleep with regardless of how old the men are. Men brag about sex no matter what the age of the woman, so I don’t think that matters. If you break it down, the relevation of this thread is that men enjoy having sex with attractive women. I’m glad we all cleared that up.

I do think older women are easier to sleep with though, they typically know what they want and don’t require the same level of attention that younger women do.

[system]

cool thread…

who here has slept with a girl that needs validation and then felt guilty about taking advantage of her issues and how the fk did you deal with it?

[NANA_Hachiko]

@bromion

No what I was trying to say is that attractive is attractive regardless of age. There’s probably a really hot 50 year old woman somewhere. But the point is, there are plenty of attractive women 35-45 that lots of men would like to sleep with regardless of how old the men are. Men brag about sex no matter what the age of the woman, so I don’t think that matters. If you break it down, the relevation of this thread is that men enjoy having sex with attractive women. I’m glad we all cleared that up.

I do think older women are easier to sleep with though, they typically know what they want and don’t require the same level of attention that younger women do.

I am coming from a woman’s perspective.

If i ever sleep with a man twice my age who is married to somebody else and has a family, i don’t think i would be bragging about it and tell my friends the glory details of how and where we have sex.

I know guys and girls are different on the subject of sexual behaviours, but are we really that different?

[Capt_Save_A_Ho]

Hey you and Greenman could hook up afterall. I don’t think there’s much difference, probably just depends on the person. If there ever was a difference, it is certainly disappearing.

[higgmond]

@NANA_Hachiko

I know guys and girls are different on the subject of sexual behaviours, but are we really that different?

I don’t think it’s so much a difference between guys and gals as much as it’s a difference between individuals. Plenty of women “brag” about their sexual conquests. The big difference from a gender perspective is that when guys “brag” about their conquests, other guys openly eat it up and call them studs. When women “brag” about their conquests, other women pretend to be offended and call them sluts, eventhough deep down inside they are eating it up and are actually jealous.

[guestuser]

@NANA_Hachiko

I am coming from a woman’s perspective.

If i ever sleep with a man twice my age who is married to somebody else and has a family, i don’t think i would be bragging about it and tell my friends the glory details of how and where we have sex.

I know guys and girls are different on the subject of sexual behaviours, but are we really that different?

I didn’t assume she was married, so that’s a big difference. I think there’s a trend of “older” women who get divorced and then become aggressive MILFs. That’s been my experience at least.

[krnyc2008]

@bromion

@NANA_Hachiko

I am coming from a woman’s perspective.

If i ever sleep with a man twice my age who is married to somebody else and has a family, i don’t think i would be bragging about it and tell my friends the glory details of how and where we have sex.

I know guys and girls are different on the subject of sexual behaviours, but are we really that different?

I didn’t assume she was married, so that’s a big difference. I think there’s a trend of “older” women who get divorced and then become aggressive MILFs. That’s been my experience at least.

You guys never feel a little “used” by them?

[bchad]

[a phone call interrupted this post, so others have commented between me and NANA’s earlier post]

@NANA_Hachiko

I am coming from a woman’s perspective.

If i ever sleep with a man twice my age who is married to somebody else and has a family, i don’t think i would be bragging about it and tell my friends the glory details of how and where we have sex.

NANA, I think you are confusing “Older” with “Married to someone else.” Amazingly, these things are not as highly correlated as you would think.

Older women are more comfortable and confident. They are not necessarily aggressive in the “go out and grab some meat” sense, but they have fewer hangups about “what happens if I sleep with them.” A lot of it has to do with the fact that women at that age are 1) no longer worried that who they sleep with will turn into who they are married and have children with, and 2) have enough of an identity that who they sleep with is more about how they choose to spend their time and less about what other people will think of them.

Ask yourself how many people you were attracted to but never opened up to fully because you were worried about how other third parties would percieve you. Now consider who you might spend time with (short or long term) if you simply didn’t care what other people thought. Well, few people completely escape the “what will other people say about me” worries, but after you’ve had kids and established yourself more, it becomes a lot less important, and that frees you up. It also makes your relationships (whether short or long term) easier, deeper, and more connective.

One thing that’s nice about men and women as they age is that they actually get more similar to each other. Women start to get more into the physical pleasures of sex without getting so worried about other stuff, and men start to enjoy the fact that an emotional connection (or even just mutual respect) makes everything that much more delicious, and neither one is as worried about what they have to “prove” to the rest of the world. It’s all about making the quality better. The quanitty aspect becomes part of the search for quality, rather than a method of proving to other men or women that you’re da sh!t. And men discover that by doing a few things differently, they can up the quality a lot. And women discover that by being just a little more encouraging to the right guy, they can up the quality of their experiences a lot.

[former_trader]

@krnyc2008

@bromion

@NANA_Hachiko

I am coming from a woman’s perspective.

If i ever sleep with a man twice my age who is married to somebody else and has a family, i don’t think i would be bragging about it and tell my friends the glory details of how and where we have sex.

I know guys and girls are different on the subject of sexual behaviours, but are we really that different?

I didn’t assume she was married, so that’s a big difference. I think there’s a trend of “older” women who get divorced and then become aggressive MILFs. That’s been my experience at least.

You guys never feel a little “used” by them?

You’re thinking too much like a woman. The goal of the man is to get laid with as little commitment as possible. The milf provides that service.

[bodhisattva]

@isildurrr

cool thread…

who here has slept with a girl that needs validation and then felt guilty about taking advantage of her issues and how the fk did you deal with it?

ohhhh mannnn…

I just kind of accepted the fact that I’am a piece of shit, especially when it comes to women.

I am no longer as manipulative and tend to be alot more upfront and honest about my intentions nowadays.

[krnyc2008]

@former_trader

@krnyc2008

@bromion

@NANA_Hachiko

I am coming from a woman’s perspective.

If i ever sleep with a man twice my age who is married to somebody else and has a family, i don’t think i would be bragging about it and tell my friends the glory details of how and where we have sex.

I know guys and girls are different on the subject of sexual behaviours, but are we really that different?

I didn’t assume she was married, so that’s a big difference. I think there’s a trend of “older” women who get divorced and then become aggressive MILFs. That’s been my experience at least.

You guys never feel a little “used” by them?

You’re thinking too much like a woman. The goal of the man is to get laid with as little commitment as possible. The milf provides that service.

Well yeah, it’s hard not to, when you are a woman.

I hear you though. I wish women were more like men. As much as I tried the the whole casual/not commitment thing. It’s not for me. Nor is it for majority of women I believe. Some women are pressured to do/believe they can do casual. But it’s not generally the case.

[krnyc2008]

@bodhisattva

I am no longer as manipulative and tend to be alot more upfront and honest about my intentions nowadays.

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Good for you

[NANA_Hachiko]

@bchad

NANA, I think you are confusing “Older” with “Married to someone else.” Amazingly, these things are not as highly correlated as you would think.

Older women are more comfortable and confident. They are not necessarily aggressive in the “go out and grab some meat” sense, but they have fewer hangups about “what happens if I sleep with them.” A lot of it has to do with the fact that women at that age are 1) no longer worried that who they sleep with will turn into who they are married and have children with, and 2) have enough of an identity that who they sleep with is more about how they choose to spend their time and less about what other people will think of them.

Ask yourself how many people you were attracted to but never opened up to fully because you were worried about how other third parties would percieve you. Now consider who you might spend time with (short or long term) if you simply didn’t care what other people thought. Well, few people completely escape the “what will other people say about me” worries, but after you’ve had kids and established yourself more, it becomes a lot less important, and that frees you up. It also makes your relationships (whether short or long term) easier, deeper, and more connective.

One thing that’s nice about men and women as they age is that they actually get more similar to each other. Women start to get more into the physical pleasures of sex without getting so worried about other stuff, and men start to enjoy the fact that an emotional connection (or even just mutual respect) makes everything that much more delicious, and neither one is as worried about what they have to “prove” to the rest of the world. It’s all about making the quality better. The quanitty aspect becomes part of the search for quality, rather than a method of proving to other men or women that you’re da sh!t. And men discover that by doing a few things differently, they can up the quality a lot. And women discover that by being just a little more encouraging to the right guy, they can up the quality of their experiences a lot.

I know older women can be attractive (i hope i look and feel the same in 15 years). And even married women can be attractive but i wouldn’t want to BRAG about my affair with a married person you know what i mean?

If i ever slept with a married man (it doesn’t matter how old or how attractive they look), i would be ashamed about it, even if i share my story with a close friend, i wouldn’t be talking about it as if i just passed my CFA exams and landed a job in a private equity firm.

[higgmond]

^ According to the Census Bureau, there are 10.3 million single mothers in the US. If 1% of them are attractive, that means there are 103,000 single MILFs available. So, it’s very possible to hook up with a single MILF.

[krnyc2008]

@NANA_Hachiko

@bchad

NANA, I think you are confusing “Older” with “Married to someone else.” Amazingly, these things are not as highly correlated as you would think.

Older women are more comfortable and confident. They are not necessarily aggressive in the “go out and grab some meat” sense, but they have fewer hangups about “what happens if I sleep with them.” A lot of it has to do with the fact that women at that age are 1) no longer worried that who they sleep with will turn into who they are married and have children with, and 2) have enough of an identity that who they sleep with is more about how they choose to spend their time and less about what other people will think of them.

Ask yourself how many people you were attracted to but never opened up to fully because you were worried about how other third parties would percieve you. Now consider who you might spend time with (short or long term) if you simply didn’t care what other people thought. Well, few people completely escape the “what will other people say about me” worries, but after you’ve had kids and established yourself more, it becomes a lot less important, and that frees you up. It also makes your relationships (whether short or long term) easier, deeper, and more connective.

One thing that’s nice about men and women as they age is that they actually get more similar to each other. Women start to get more into the physical pleasures of sex without getting so worried about other stuff, and men start to enjoy the fact that an emotional connection (or even just mutual respect) makes everything that much more delicious, and neither one is as worried about what they have to “prove” to the rest of the world. It’s all about making the quality better. The quanitty aspect becomes part of the search for quality, rather than a method of proving to other men or women that you’re da sh!t. And men discover that by doing a few things differently, they can up the quality a lot. And women discover that by being just a little more encouraging to the right guy, they can up the quality of their experiences a lot.

I know older women can be attractive (i hope i look and feel the same in 15 years). And even married women can be attractive but i wouldn’t want to BRAG about my affair with a married person you know what i mean?

If i ever slept with a married man (it doesn’t matter how old or how attractive they look), i would be ashamed about it, even if i share my story with a close friend, i wouldn’t be talking about it as if i just passed my CFA exams and landed a job in a private equity firm.

The guys were talking about single women. Recently divorced, they are coming out of s3xless (and otherwise dysfunctional) marriages and all they want is to sleep around before settling into a new relationship. It’s a win win for all parties involved.

[NANA_Hachiko]

@krnyc2008

The guys were talking about single women. Recently divorced, they are coming out of s3xless (and otherwise dysfunctional) marriages and all they want is to sleep around before settling into a new relationship. It’s a win win for all parties involved.

if they are single moms that’s fine… but i still don’t know why it’s EXTRA SPECIAL like it’s worth sharing as a “guess what i did last weekend” anecdote?

I don’t know, perhaps i will just categorize this as a “guy’s thing”.