Ahh the office christmas party

[H_P_Flashman]

@brain\_wash\_your\_face

Never, ever break eye contact. No matter what. I don’t care if you are actually talking to somebody else or eating a banana, if you maintain eye contact relentlessly then he will be forced to back down and she will be putty in your hands.

Solid advice. Works for a bunch of things: interviews, the dentist, traffic stops etc.

[hei.so]

@stratman

Depends on your definition of cheating I suppose, but in my mind there was no cheating because there was no physical stuff. But I made her aware of my interest, which is all I could really do. The ball was in her court.

She also wasn’t going behind her BF’s back. He knew we were out together, which to this day blows my mind.

Fair enough, I guess I misunderstood your “alcohol worked its wonderful magic” comment.

Don’t know why her BF was okay with it. If I was in a relationship, I would never let her hang out alone with another guy.

[whatsyourgovt]

@hei.so

@stratman

Depends on your definition of cheating I suppose, but in my mind there was no cheating because there was no physical stuff. But I made her aware of my interest, which is all I could really do. The ball was in her court.

She also wasn’t going behind her BF’s back. He knew we were out together, which to this day blows my mind.

Fair enough, I guess I misunderstood your “alcohol worked its wonderful magic” comment.

Don’t know why her BF was okay with it. If I was in a relationship, I would never let her hang out alone with another guy.

if a girl is going to cheat, she will cheat. No use acting as a parent and saying you cant see so and so.

[system]

any wild MILF stories at these parties? I had my chance at a party last year to beat the breaks off this 45 year-old MD but chickened out.

[former_trader]

@krazykanuck

@Carson

What was your thinking for being rude to her and friendly with the boyfriend? Seems pretty counterintuitive to me.

I had lunch with her and a few colleagues before Thanksgiving and was a perfectly friendly, nice person then. It’s been my experience that being that guy doesn’t really work - in my case, it’s never worked, until you’ve shown yourself as the superior alternative as bro mentions. I was nice to the boyfriend because since they’re currently long distance since she moved for the new job with us (another reason I think this one has a time clock on it), be met a ton of people that night and it wouldn’t hurt for him to remember me when the two of them inevitibly talk about the Christmas party again.

I think coddling her and being a jerk to the BF would have been a non-starter. Too transparent.

You don’t need to be a jerk to get her. Tease her. Get her off her pedestal. Give her a hard time in a playful manner.

[krazykanuck]

^ yeah FT, I wasn’t being a complete jerk. I was giving her shit in a playful way, like you suggest.

@bromion

A month is a sufficient time period for a trade up, so in the absence of other info, IMO we should assume that’s what happened and it wasn’t cheating. There was a recruiting period, and the superior offer won. Similar to the employment market, most women won’t just quit their job without another one to go to.

So rational. I like it. Guess I’ll find an excuse to go say hi to her before I go on vacation on Wednesday and then pick this up in the new year.

No milfy crazyness happening at our party, though there are a few hot wives. Maybe some day I’ll have one.

[BiPolarBoyBoston]

So you want to break up somebody’s relationship just so you can sleep with her? Thats pretty douchie.

The proper way to interact with a friend’s BF/GF is the same as you would with anybody else - with an open mind and respect.

[krazykanuck]

@BiPolarBoyBoston

So you want to break up somebody’s relationship just so you can sleep with her? Thats pretty douchie.

The proper way to interact with a friend’s BF/GF is the same as you would with anybody else - with an open mind and respect.

I’m not looking to break them up, I’m just observing and hoping to place my self optimally for when they break up, which they are probably will at some point for reasons likely unrelated to me. Big difference. As my mom, a wonderful romantic, likes to say, in life all but one of your relationships will end (assuming you only get married once). May the odds be ever in my favor…

[guestuser]

@krazykanuck

I’m not looking to break them up, I’m just observing and hoping to place my self optimally for when they break up

Yeah he’s just waiting for the liquidity event (oh snap), which is totally different than trying to break them up. Some of the best alpha in the dating (and stock) markets is generated on the liquidity event.

Just making up numbers here but if you date 9 women and break up with them and then marry the 10th, then you have a 90% relationship failure rate going into the big one. If 50% of marriages end in divorce, then it would be a 5% success rate. Probably the average is lower than 5%. Yeah, that’s pretty uplifting stuff right there…

[brain_wash_your_face]

@bromion

@krazykanuck

I’m not looking to break them up, I’m just observing and hoping to place my self optimally for when they break up

Yeah he’s just waiting for the liquidity event (oh snap), which is totally different than trying to break them up. Some of the best alpha in the dating (and stock) markets is generated on the liquidity event.

Just making up numbers here but if you date 9 women and break up with them and then marry the 10th, then you have a 90% relationship failure rate going into the big one. If 50% of marriages end in divorce, then it would be a 5% success rate. Probably the average is lower than 5%. Yeah, that’s pretty uplifting stuff right there…

Haha, I think that this analysis is a little flawed though. A relationship ending is only a failure if you intended the relationship to last for life. Not sure I ever had any relationships that I planned on lasting for life until recently. So, 100% success rate so far.

Agree that this coworker could break up with her bf of a few months, but I don’t know that I’d ascribe “failure” to that. Maybe he just wanted to hit it and quit it.

[Viceroy]

@bromion

@krazykanuck

I’m not looking to break them up, I’m just observing and hoping to place my self optimally for when they break up

Yeah he’s just waiting for the liquidity event (oh snap), which is totally different than trying to break them up. Some of the best alpha in the dating (and stock) markets is generated on the liquidity event.

Just making up numbers here but if you date 9 women and break up with them and then marry the 10th, then you have a 90% relationship failure rate going into the big one. If 50% of marriages end in divorce, then it would be a 5% success rate. Probably the average is lower than 5%. Yeah, that’s pretty uplifting stuff right there…

You gotta stop trying to explain the wimenz with finance analogies ; it’s dorky.

[system]

@1BigStudMuffin

any wild MILF stories at these parties? I had my chance at a party last year to beat the breaks off this 45 year-old MD but chickened out.

Hacksaw.

[ohai]

A surprisingly high proportion of female MD types around here seem to be divorced, and possibly lonely and depressed. I feel that there is a market opportunity. Of course, given the baggage, it’s possibly not worth it.

[S2000magician]

Any Christmas party that didn’t hire a magician (e.g., yours truly) to stroll amongst the guests to entertain them is, at best, a second-class affair.

[Wendy]

@S2000magician

Any Christmas party that didn’t hire a magician (e.g., yours truly) to stroll amongst the guests to entertain them is, at best, a second-class affair.

[mlwl8521]

@inkybinky

@dwheats

I think youi should be nice, but also make it aware (but not too aware so that you are a dick) that you are the alpha.

Then you just keep being alpha and she comes to you.

If you have to resort to zeoing in on a girl who has a boyfriend, then you’re not alpha.

I love how you just called him out on that ROFL

[el_macca17]

anyone else cringe when bros say ‘alpha’?

[dwheats]

@inkybinky

@dwheats

I think youi should be nice, but also make it aware (but not too aware so that you are a dick) that you are the alpha.

Then you just keep being alpha and she comes to you.

If you have to resort to zeoing in on a girl who has a boyfriend, then you’re not alpha.

Alpha is relative.

You can be alpha relative to him, but not to other people.

[Greenman72]

@mk17

anyone else cringe when bros say ‘alpha’?

+1

It’s right up there with discussing the NPV of marriage.

[brain_wash_your_face]

@mk17

anyone else cringe when bros say ‘alpha’?

So cringe