this thread is hilarious thanks
I always liked the Moe Sislak approach, ‘why don’t we go out sometime, you know, out back’. Effective and to the point.
Hayek Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I know you said the office is big but I only have > one rule: > Don’t sh*t where you eat. No exceptions. Get the hell out of here, work is some of the best places to forge relationships. It must be done with tact, however, and take your time. Justin’s advice was good, and that approach generally works in all social situations (not just picking up girls at work). I don’t know what else to say, anyone that can meet girls at a bar easily shouldn’t be asking advice…something smells fishy…
I think in large companies with different divisions and sitting in different locations is a separate case from working in a startup where 5 people are in the same room, and a busted relationship makes everything go wacky and even puts the company at risk. There are drawbacks to inter-company relationships, but sometimes we work so hard that those are the only people we actually have the chance to relate to. So I generally try to avoid workplace romances, but it’s more a guideline than a hard-and-fast rule.
Ok, well just to clarify, not saying I find the bar pickup easy, I should say easier. Everyone is drunk, and it would be a girl I dont have to seee again, just less akward for me. And this is a big consultant, and she’s in a totally different team, different level and never work with them. Will try and put justins advice into action…
Most girls would be flattered that you asked them out unless you are a total troll, and even trolls get the chicks if they’re charming and confident. Just try to relax and don’t over-think it. Remember the words of Vito Corleone – don’t be a Johnny Fontane. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6h6uvOY3kFs
transferpricingCFA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Ok, well just to clarify, not saying I find the > bar pickup easy, I should say easier. Everyone is > drunk, and it would be a girl I dont have to seee > again, just less akward for me. > > And this is a big consultant, and she’s in a > totally different team, different level and never > work with them. > > Will try and put justins advice into action… Is there anyway you can get to know her through social functions with the company? Stuff like that, just be normal in comfortable settings…I wouldn’t try asking her out if you’ve only interacted a few times at the office, how well do you know her?
spreads Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > transferpricingCFA Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Ok, well just to clarify, not saying I find the > > bar pickup easy, I should say easier. Everyone > is > > drunk, and it would be a girl I dont have to > seee > > again, just less akward for me. > > > > And this is a big consultant, and she’s in a > > totally different team, different level and > never > > work with them. > > > > Will try and put justins advice into action… > > Is there anyway you can get to know her through > social functions with the company? Stuff like > that, just be normal in comfortable settings…I > wouldn’t try asking her out if you’ve only > interacted a few times at the office, how well do > you know her? Listen to this guy, look at his username!
ASSet_MANagement Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > spreads Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > transferpricingCFA Wrote: > > > -------------------------------------------------- > > > ----- > > > Ok, well just to clarify, not saying I find > the > > > bar pickup easy, I should say easier. > Everyone > > is > > > drunk, and it would be a girl I dont have to > > seee > > > again, just less akward for me. > > > > > > And this is a big consultant, and she’s in a > > > totally different team, different level and > > never > > > work with them. > > > > > > Will try and put justins advice into > action… > > > > Is there anyway you can get to know her through > > social functions with the company? Stuff like > > that, just be normal in comfortable > settings…I > > wouldn’t try asking her out if you’ve only > > interacted a few times at the office, how well > do > > you know her? > > Listen to this guy, look at his username! Spreads… Hahaha…
ask for lunch, tell her you are interested in learning more about her area. Talk about that for the first 15 minutes then on to more casual topics about hobbies, ask for ideas for what to do on the weekend, and so on. you should be able to gauge interest this way and ask if she wants to hang out…
DoubleDip Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > ask for lunch, tell her you are interested in > learning more about her area. Talk about that for > the first 15 minutes then on to more casual topics > about hobbies, ask for ideas for what to do on the > weekend, and so on. you should be able to gauge > interest this way and ask if she wants to hang > out… Friend zone, dead ahead!
In Europe, the friend zone is not as permanent as it is in the US.
I get the feeling that in Europe, the “group sex zone” is also bigger than it is in the US.
ohai Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I get the feeling that in Europe, the “group sex > zone” is also bigger than it is in the US. LOL
Friend zone is underrated. It is possible to transition out of the friend zone. Think of it as an MO to FO transfer.
Trying to get out of the friend zone is more trouble than its worth, especially once you’re in your mid-20’s and have other options. Better just to go for other girls in my view…personally, I like to keep a good friendship the way it is and look elsewhere for fun
Being “friends” with a girl is the easiest way to trip. You’re over here helping her get ready for some stud like me to come pick her up??? LOL
You do have to make sure she knows you are a man and thinking about her as a woman, rather than a buddy. But other than that, I wouldn’t worry too much about the “friend” thing there. People go out and do things together and stuff either happens or it doesn’t. And if it doesn’t happen one night, it can happen another, assuming that there is any mutual attraction there. It’s really only in the US, Canada, and Australia that people feel the need to classify others as friends vs. potential lovers and make it a firm category. The only exception is when arguing that they’re not having an affair with someone, because they’re “just a friend” (but of course that’s why that particular argument doesn’t hold that much water on the continent).
I don’t really understand the “friend zone” concept. If I was newly single and had a hot female friend, I would probably still want to hook up with her. My male intuition says that women would similarly put attractive but unavailable men in some sort of “reserve” category. Would I be thinking differently if I had a v.gina? Does anyone understand this stuff?
That’s not what the friend zone is about. The friend zone has less to do with what you think of her and more about where the girl’s bucketed you. The verdict is to avoid the friends zone, as lxwarr30 stated so eloquently. If you want to be more than friends, you gotta establish that you don’t need more friends and aren’t just looking for friendship. You’re just being a man!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6h6uvOY3kFs