Well… To keep the dating themed posts going… As Ive said before im new on the single scene again. Wanted to know the best and casual way to go about showing a girl im interested and asking to hang sometime. I’m 28, isnt that sad. Anyway, the main reason why its a bit complex is because its a girl who works in my office. She is in a totally different department so its rare I ever see her in a building with 700+ people in the firm. Ive only spoken to her briefly a couple of times. Also this isn’t from the US, infact this isn’t the US at all. Im in Scandinavia. I find picking up random girls in bars much easier than this. Any tips??
Next time you run into her, tell her it’s so nice to see her again. Mention that you remember (something, her hair, her shoes, her dress, something she said) from last time. Then suggest lunch. From there, I’m sure you can build it up if you get some chemistry. But of course, she could be involved already, so be prepared for that possibility. No problem just being friendly, though. It’s generally a bad idea to get too obsessed with a particular person if they haven’t reciprocated fully, but it happens to all of us. Actually, I’m extracting myself from my own interest in someone right now. She seems to like me, but clearly not as much as I like her. BTW, why is 28 sad? You’re entering your prime attractiveness years.
Am no expert here but this is what works for me: (1) Smile at her. (2) Pay her a few compliments. (3) Make sure she knows your name. (4) Find out a little about her – what she likes, etc – without being a creeper. (5) Ask her if she’d like to go out with you sometime, suggesting to go do something she likes. Make sure to use clear language so it’s is understood to be a date. “Wanna hang sometime?” is bad. “Would you like to go out with me sometime?” or “I’d really like to take you out sometime; do you like ?” is better, because she’s already saying yes to the second part. GL bro.
> I find picking up random girls in bars much easier > than this. If you have this kind of swag you should be teaching us how to get girls. We’re over here resorting to internet websites. Haha. > I’m 28, isnt that sad. Anyway, the main reason why > its a bit complex is because its a girl who works > in my office. She is in a totally different > department so its rare I ever see her in a > building with 700+ people in the firm. I would normally advise agaisnt going after someone you work with. Will probably create some awkward tension. If the building is big enough/she doesn’t work on your floor, etc. maybe it’s ok? I don’t know if this is lame but if she’s ever expressed something she likes to you, you could give her one and say you saw it and thought of her. My cousin got hit on by this girl he worked with (don’t know why/what she was thinking) but he had told her he liked cannolis. A few days later she brought one in and said she saw it and thought of him. He got the hint. Hope it works out.
Look, it’s pretty simple. Girls like the alpha male, they want a man that can provide for them and put food on the table. Next Monday bring her a dead animal you killed. Ducks are classy, everyone likes them, it’s hard to go wrong with a good duck. Make sure you wrap it in newspaper to keep it a surprise and leave it on her desk before she comes in with a note made of cutout magazine letters (shows her you’re artsy as well) that says, “I can’t keep my eyes off of you. - your secret admirer”. She’ll get the point. Pretty soon you’ll be the talk of the office.
Black Swan Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Look, it’s pretty simple. Girls like the alpha > male, they want a man that can provide for them > and put food on the table. Next Monday bring her > a dead animal you killed. Ducks are classy, > everyone likes them, it’s hard to go wrong with a > good duck. Make sure you wrap it in newspaper to > keep it a surprise and leave it on her desk before > she comes in with a note made of cutout magazine > letters (shows her you’re artsy as well) that > says, “I can’t keep my eyes off of you. - your > secret admirer”. She’ll get the point. Pretty > soon you’ll be the talk of the office. If she works in finance, you need to try harder. Find her a black swan, kill it, and use that instead. 
justin88 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Black Swan Wrote: > -------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > Look, it’s pretty simple. Girls like the alpha > > male, they want a man that can provide for them > > and put food on the table. Next Monday bring > her > > a dead animal you killed. Ducks are classy, > > everyone likes them, it’s hard to go wrong with > a > > good duck. Make sure you wrap it in newspaper > to > > keep it a surprise and leave it on her desk > before > > she comes in with a note made of cutout > magazine > > letters (shows her you’re artsy as well) that > > says, “I can’t keep my eyes off of you. - your > > secret admirer”. She’ll get the point. Pretty > > soon you’ll be the talk of the office. > > If she works in finance, you need to try harder. > Find her a black swan, kill it, and use that > instead. lol good one !
lxwarr30 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > > My cousin got hit on by this girl he worked with > (don’t know why/what she was thinking) but he had > told her he liked cannolis. A few days later she > brought one in and said she saw it and thought of > him. He got the hint. Hope it works out. Did she seductively eat it in front of him? Hopefully with the filling spilling out all over?
All pretty good advice I think. Well the first few posts of this thread that is. Office is pretty big, shes on a different level, so may not run into her for a while. I do have her on facebook though…
I’m sure if you put a little thought into it, you can figure out how to increase your chances of “accidentally” running into her. You can also be a bit more direct. If there’s anything you know about her that you can legitimately say “I saw this and thought of you” without sounding completely creepy, most women are charmed that some guy is thinking about them. Someone already suggested something like this, and I’ll just second the suggestion. Make it something small and relatively unimportant. In fact, it’s almost better if it’s something she suspects might just be an excuse for you to come talk to her. If it’s a little bit ambiguous and you are the least bit attractive a suitor, she will spend hours wondering if you really ran across this thing by chance, or if you completely invented it as an excuse to talk to her. You’ll already be in and on her mind as she thinks about it.
Just put peanut butter in her hair or shoot spit balls at her. That’s how I met my last gf, way back in 2nd grade. Due to work, I haven’t really been looking, but I’m confident the same tactics will prove efficacious today.
if you don’t see her often then there’s all the more reason to catch up.
I know you said the office is big but I only have one rule: Don’t sh*t where you eat. No exceptions.
^what if the table where you eat is really big, like banquet style? cant you take a little dump at the far end? yep thats right, the answer is no. +1 to hayek
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Hayek Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I know you said the office is big but I only have > one rule: > Don’t sh*t where you eat. No exceptions. I disagree. Additional protocol applies but an outright ban is excessive. In some cases it should be adhered to, but in this situation id greenlight it.
transferpricingCFA Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Well… To keep the dating themed posts going… > > As Ive said before im new on the single scene > again. > > Wanted to know the best and casual way to go about > showing a girl im interested and asking to hang > sometime. > > I’m 28, isnt that sad. Anyway, the main reason why > its a bit complex is because its a girl who works > in my office. She is in a totally different > department so its rare I ever see her in a > building with 700+ people in the firm. > > Ive only spoken to her briefly a couple of times. > Also this isn’t from the US, infact this isn’t the > US at all. Im in Scandinavia. > > I find picking up random girls in bars much easier > than this. > > Any tips?? just be all like ‘you got me straight trippin boo, i aint trying to handcuff but do you want to kick it some time?’ works everytime
justin88 Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Am no expert here but this is what works for me: > > (1) Smile at her. > (2) Pay her a few compliments. > (3) Make sure she knows your name. > (4) Find out a little about her – what she likes, > etc – without being a creeper. > (5) Ask her if she’d like to go out with you > sometime, suggesting to go do something she likes. > Make sure to use clear language so it’s is > understood to be a date. “Wanna hang sometime?” > is bad. “Would you like to go out with me > sometime?” or “I’d really like to take you out > sometime; do you like ?” is better, because she’s > already saying yes to the second part. > > GL bro. This is actually a far better idea then what I originally posted.
In situations like this, you’ll want to abandon anything the CFA curriculum taught you about analysis, mosaic theory, etc. and just go for it. The CFA has a way of messing up guys’ mojo (this is the real reason I quit the program, FYI). Anyway, assuming you don’t have any reservations about dating or hooking up with someone in the workplace – which there are a number of good reasons why you should consider – just go for it and don’t over-think it. Granted, you probably don’t want to sh!t where you eat as others have stated, but if this girl is really out-of-this-world attractive, I would hate to miss that opportunity if I were you. As for how you should approach the situation…if you weren’t the high school quarterback or captain of some sports team, ask yourself what you’d do if you were that guy – would you be contemplating all these permutations and hypotheticals about what you should or shouldn’t do, or would you just smile, be charming and confident, and go after the girl? Seriously, girls at work generally have the same fundamental needs as girls elsewhere that need to be satisfied. Try hard not to overthink the situation. If you don’t mind about hooking up with someone at work, show her that you’re that guy who can satisfy her needs. If you can do this type of stuff with ease outside the office, asking a girl at work to join you for coffee shouldn’t be that much more of a stretch. Keep it simple – if the girl’s attractive, your cues should be obvious to her, and you guys will be practicing making babies in no time. Good luck mate. Hope this helps.
Hayek Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I know you said the office is big but I only have > one rule: > Don’t sh*t where you eat. No exceptions. Should I get a divorce then?