Over the weekend, I took my son (6 years old) to get a haircut. The person who cut his hair was definitely a shemale. That is, I think it was anatomically male, but tried its best to be female. (Long hair, makeup, nails done, etc.) The son, of course, was confused by this, and asked me (right in front of Shemale), “Daddy, is that a boy or a girl?”
Not knowing what to do, I responded, “Why don’t you ask?” He did, and Shemale replied that it was a girl. And that was that.
Later, when I told my wife about the incident, she gasped, “Oh my god. You didn’t ASK, did you? I mean, what if you offended them?”
I told her that I really didn’t care if I offended him/her/it. I mean, I’ll respect his rights as a human being and all. I won’t intentionally be rude or anything. But if you’re going to be…confusing (confused?), then you’ll pardon me for asking.
Is it rude to ask?
(edit - I ask this because I live in an area of the country where we aren’t very diverse. Not many gays or transgender here. Haven’t encountered any–until this weekend.)