system
November 12, 2014, 10:26pm
#41
When a chick tosses your salad and I’m not talking romaine either. That’s generally a pretty good first sign.
It ain’t rocket science. Ask her out. If 1) She accepts and 2) Shows up at the date, she’s interested.
system
November 13, 2014, 5:02am
#44
Pumping a girl on the first date and making her fall in love with you are usually very different,the girl you pump on the first date will usually hate you for making her feel like a slut on the first date afterwards,but a girl who falls in love is a totally different game.I am a pumper man,I can pump most girls in the first session (Something most guys cant do that easily,however I can handle a relationship if I wanted to).
Decide if you want to pump her or marry her,I know it sounds crazy but these two are both sides of a spectrum,sounds like you are more into marrying her than pumping her,so the only advice I can give you is not to pump her on the first date
igor555:
wasnt rr gay?
wasn’t rr going to get banned?
system
November 13, 2014, 9:56am
#47
Thanks for your feedback lxwar/xray/bcahd sir/ohai etc who truly tried to help…
system
November 13, 2014, 9:57am
#48
Actually there is attraction from both sides and i want her to take the 1st step…
system
November 13, 2014, 10:00am
#49
bchad:
lxwarr30:
So what if she likes you or doesnt like you ? You will learn that this mating thing is far more random than you think it might be,there are literaly thousand things you can do to scre her perception of you or vice versa and since we dont have control over them the best thing is not to give a s**t .
However I have a strategy which has worked every single time in my work place,show her a tour of some wonderful place where the two of you can go and present the idea to her,however SUGGEST TO HER THAT SHE HAS TO PAY HER SHARE(This will make her feel safe since she thinks you are normal friends).Wether you go or not is not important as long as she accepts the offer(make the offer for the next month )because by accepting the offer she will dream of the trip.In the time you have between the suggestion and the actual trip time you can make your move.To give you a better mindset
MAKE A VERY BOLD MOVE(suggest the trip without the romantic stuff):She will be shocked at your confidence and since you made her feel safe by asking to pay for her share most likely will comply.
Between pahse 1 and 3 keep a close contact with her but nothing too bold,try to be as mysterious as possible without being stupid,this will cause her to make fantasises about you,
MAKE THE MOVE THAT YOU ACTUALLY PLANNED FOR(Invite her to your house,go to a smaller trip,etc)
If you find she is a good girl then you can proceed to a relationship,if not you have pumped her at least.
All the best
RR, please don’t listen to Isuldur. I don’t know how it works in India, but in America this would get you no where.
Don’t be a chump and buy her some super fancy meal on the first date. Make it something small that she doesn’t feel committed to for hours. Giving her an easy way to excuse herself will make her feel safe because you’re not trying to isolate or hold her down for too long. But do feel free to spend a little to show you’re generous or kind even if it’s just a milkshake while you walk around.
Make a plan within a week of asking. Waiting too long just means opportunity to lose interest. No one is going to fantasize about you for a month. They’ll probably lose interest or talk themselves out of it. Capitalize when the moment is present, don’t let it slip away.
Finally, make it clear that you’re interest romantically. Pretending you’re a friend is not the move. Ever. Period. This is how you end in the friend zone. You don’t need to say anything too crazy, but make it clear you want it to just be the two of you. She’ll get the hint.
You’ll know she likes you if she initiates conversation without it having to do with work. If she comes over to conversations that you’re in with other people and wants to join. If she notices small unique things you do and tell you they’re funny (means she’s paying attention).
Yes to all of this.
Agree especially with the fact that you should make it clear that you are interested in her romantically. Don’t go overboard and come on like a freight train, because that might scare her off, and make sure that the time and place for demonstrating your interest is appropriate. But whenever there’s a moment to wonder “are we flirting/courting or are we just two friends doing things together,” make sure your actions are clearly on the “courting” side of the line.
Women spend a lot of time wondering “does he like me, or doesn’t he,” as long as you don’t come across as a fish on the hook who just hast to be reeled in, she will appreciate that you are not afraid to say “I like *you*.”
You don’t need to demonstrate that you’re a friend, when you are pursing a woman, because - ideally - if you are going out with someone, you are, by default, trying to be at least friends. She will assume at least that, and wonder if you are looking for more. Don’t be afraid to do things that reveal that you think she’s special. A lot of guys get hung up on that, and that’s where the cofidence part comes in.
That’s basically the trick. Let her know through your actions, and occasionally through your words, that you think she’s special and worthy of attention. What women most like (in my experience) is something to indicate that you think that she’s special, and take the time now and then to think about her.
The things that may mess it up anyway:
If she decides she’s interested in someone else (it may not be that you’re bad, it’s just that she likes him better, or he got there first)
If you are for some reason physically unattractive or unhygienic (with women, it’s generally more important to be “not unattractive” than to be “super attractive”)
If she’s very concerned about financial security, and you don’t measure up (usually more an issue with lower class women looking for a provider and without prospects to provide for themselves, but occasionally a problem with upper class women or social climbers who want a guy to provide the lifestyle to which they are accustomed or would like to become accustomed).
I think the girl likes me…I know i like her…Who should take the 1st step me or her?
YoMo
November 13, 2014, 11:05am
#50
I really hope you dont get that girl, for your benefit.
system
November 13, 2014, 11:33am
#51
RR you are a friend its always a pleasure dude
system
November 13, 2014, 12:03pm
#52
Palantir:
Ask her about your abs.
He finds me very cool…i can’t show her my abs…
system
November 13, 2014, 12:29pm
#53
Why do injuns talk on the phone when they are taking dumps? It’s freaking annoying and awful hygiene
So one person you know actually does that… and based on that you have concluded to generalise. hmm interesting.
igor555
November 13, 2014, 3:16pm
#55
my joint is full of em, and azians
dwheats
November 13, 2014, 3:43pm
#57
You should most definitely take the 1st step. That is what a man would do.
system
November 13, 2014, 4:14pm
#58
Always a joy in a girl asking you out…
dwheats
November 13, 2014, 4:29pm
#59
Not for her. She wants to be romantacized, to know her man knows what he wants, and that he can get sh*t done.
tjcfa
November 13, 2014, 6:01pm
#60
Im off for a few days, come back and RR is about to get laid? Lord shiva must be proud!
