Dude I was on Facebook this morning and all the USA chicks have hyphenated last names.
Is this a feminist thing? You guys are okay with that?
Fugg no!
I don’t think it’s what you think. Most married women on FB use both their maiden name and their married name so they’ll show up when someone searches for them, be they high school friends or “new” post-marriage friends.
Though there are many more hyphenated last names in general these days. And yes, those women do indeed suck.
Hyphenated last name is a dealbreaker for me.
Ahhh quality analysis.
But yeah otherwise dealbreaker! It sends a message which isn’t so great I think.
Actually we had a contractor in the office who had a triple hyphenated name. How does that even happen? She was totally nuts, even more so than our other contractors, and more so than our F/T employees with double hyphenated names.
would you guys consider hypening your own names like…CFAvsMBA-Kardashian or Bchad-Kardashian
If you are considering whether or not to hyphenate your name, you should watch “Hot Tub Time Machine”, which basically answers this question.
Isn’t taking the husband’s last name a cultural thing anyway? I don’t think women in Latin American countries take the husband’s last name and the kids actually get both last names.
I think Latin America the wife hyphenates, but the kids get the father’s name.
I know this girl from college, when she got married, both she and her husband hyphenated their names. Don’t know wtf that’s about.
I wouldn’t want my wife to hyphenate. At all. It think it’s stupid and confusing.
why get married period?
tax advantages
In Bolivia, kids get both last names with father’s last name first and mother’s last name second but refer to themselves in informal conversation with just the father’s last name.
My wife took my last name and is the only one in her group of Hispanic friends who did so.
Yes, in Latin America, kids generally get both dad’s and mom’s name, which I always thought was cool. Presumably this comes from a time when it was widely recognized that men might have children from several women (and possibly the reverse as well) and so you wanted to distinguish people’s lineage by both father and mother.
What’s interesting is that in Spanish and Portuguese the order of the names is reversed. I forget exactly which one is which, but I believe that in Spanish-speaking Latin America the father’s name comes first and then the mother’s, while in Portuguese speaking Latin America (and elsewhere in the lusophonic world) the mother’s name comes first, then the father’s.
I don’t fully remember how married names work. I believe that women keep their maiden name but add the husband’s at the end, a bit the same way that maiden names had traditionally been turned into middle names in the English speaking world; it’s just that these middle names actually get used a lot more rather than simply forgotten the way they are here. I believe the maiden name that applies is the father’s name (one needs to get cut out to prevent names from growing exponentially with each generation, and traditionally, the father’s name told you more about one’s wealth and status during times when it was considered cool to deny women property and power and such, so I guess people decided to stick with the father’s name).
LA is pretty big so it varies from country to country, but children usually get both of their parents’ last names (dad first, mom second).
Regarding women picking up their husband’s name, in Nicaragua at least, they take it a step further and add “de” as in “of” before the husband’s last name. So if Juana Lopez marries Juan Perez, it would be customary for Juana to change her name to Juana de Perez. It’s definitely less prevalent than it was back in the day but still pretty common.
in China, the baby boy keeps the last name and the baby girl is thrown in the garbage …
Why do you care? It has nothing to do with you.
It is a choice the woman gets to make and if you don’t like it talk her out of it.
My wife did not change her name at all. I did not have a strong preference either way. “Feminism” was probably part of it. The other reason that she said was that my last name is very short and generic. Her last name is very long and complicated. So, I guess she did not want to lose her “brand name”, which would be useful in career, etc. I actually agree with this reasoning…