You will never get a full relationship with a partner that works all the time. Plus if you have kids, they will be raised by Nanny’s. My preference is to honestly find a good house wife who will take care of you. That to me is more important than a dual income. Just my 2 cents.
I have to say I am pretty shocked by the number of men on here saying they’d prefer a girlfriend/wife thats basically at their beck and call… as opposed to a partner who is just as motivated/hard working. I would think you’d be somewhat concerned about being married to a woman who’s only marrying you to support her, as opposed to an equal…
I’ve told my gf many times that if she can earn enough money to support an entire family I’d be happy to stay home and take care of the kids. Glad you feel the same way.
haha, not exactly what I was going for Mr. Mom. for an e-flirtatious guy, i think i actually hear wedding bells with those kinds of conversations with your gf… lol…hmm??
There’s always the bachelor party for the AF menage a quadruple.
IheartMath Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > I have to say I am pretty shocked by the number of > men on here saying they’d prefer a girlfriend/wife > thats basically at their beck and call… as > opposed to a partner who is just as motivated/hard > working. > I would think you’d be somewhat > concerned about being married to a woman who’s > only marrying you to support her, as opposed to an > equal… You made a thinking error, somehow you went from a woman who makes it her job to care for a man [beck and call language not necessary] --> into marrying you only to support her.
no, I’m just saying thats a possibility of why she initially wants to “make it her job to care a man”
'I have to say I am pretty shocked by the number of men on here saying they’d prefer a girlfriend/wife thats basically at their beck and call… as opposed to a partner who is just as motivated/hard working. I would think you’d be somewhat concerned about being married to a woman who’s only marrying you to support her, as opposed to an equal…" Your right, it’s all dependent on how you want to live your lifestyle. If you want a DINK (double income no kids) then that would be another way to go.
I dont mind my wife working or the 6 figs she brings in… allows us to spoil ourself and better things for the kids
Yes but in your statement was also another thinking error (that’s two now), that somehow she is not “an equal” if she makes it her job to care for a man instead of making it her job to increase GDP.
“I dont mind my wife working or the 6 figs she brings in… allows us to spoil ourself and better things for the kids” who takes care of the kids? Grandma? Buy yeah dual income is great.
i never said anything about how much money she actually brings in, or what kind of job she has… all i wondered was wouldn’t you want a partner who is just as motivated/hardworking… ultimately i dont see taking care of your man as being motivated (however taking care of a family could be hardwork) but during the time period leading up to marriage when you’re just dating - i would think most guys would be looking for a woman who is more than someone who wants to wife you… thats all… it just didn’t seem like that was the case reading some of the posts. i would think the preferable situation is what goldenboy09 seems to have. balance is obviously important.
IheartMath Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > i would > think most guys would be looking for a woman who > is more than someone who wants to wife you… Agree. I want someone who wants to Ashley Dupre me as well.
Interesting conversation - I’ve definitely asked myself the same questions. I hope things work out for you, numi. However, I think people need to be prepared to have problematic/rebellious children if both parents list their career as a high priority. There is some fallacious idea proposed by psychologists called ‘work/life’ balance, but I rarely see it in practice when looking at very successful people. It all depends on what’s important to you, but people shouldn’t fool themselves into a sense of hope with ‘work/life balance.’ Especially when it comes to business and finance - it has to be one of the most demanding fields out there.
purealpha Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > Yes but in your statement was also another > thinking error (that’s two now), that somehow she > is not “an equal” if she makes it her job to care > for a man instead of making it her job to increase > GDP. who the fuk thinks? I dont care about gdp…
JohnThainsLimoDriver Wrote: > Agree. I want someone who wants to Ashley Dupre me > as well. omg… nice.
maadeezy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > “I dont mind my wife working or the 6 figs she > brings in… allows us to spoil ourself and better > things for the kids” > > who takes care of the kids? Grandma? > > Buy yeah dual income is great. after school care…
maadeezy Wrote: ------------------------------------------------------- > “I dont mind my wife working or the 6 figs she > brings in… allows us to spoil ourself and better > things for the kids” > > who takes care of the kids? Grandma? > > Buy yeah dual income is great. after school care… How did you take care of kids when they were infants??? On average besides the weekend, how much time do you spend time with your kids??? I grew up where Family was important and we had each other’s back.
- we only have 1 2. I work 7-4 3. Family is crazy important for us too 4. Wife does not work most weekends but sometimes.
Goldenboy09, Awesome, I have a kid too, but I’m not married. It is hard to support children in this age. There is no right or wrong answer.